On Sunday, I Write.

The personal blog of Picture This Clothing Co-founder + CEO, Jaimee Newberry. Posts/Thoughts written in 45 minutes or less.

Two Steps Forward, Three Steps Back

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Building a new company is fun. That is not a sarcastic statement, I genuinely love it. It’s also painful, scary, frustrating, and soul-crushing sometimes.

At Picture This Clothing we’ve been working for MONTHS on new product development of one — yes ONE — product, specifically. We got to the point where we were just about ready to launch when we got some size/fit feedback from one of our awesome product testers that two of the kids sizes didn’t fit well. We tested them with a couple more kids and determined that the patterns were just not usable. We tried again, and again, unusable which meant we had to start over from the beginning of what had thus far been a 4-month process. Ugh.

But so goes business, right? And life.

We learned a few things from the first go-around. And learned much sooner (just under 1 month in this time) that our second go-around wasn’t going to work out, either. At this moment of realization I laid on the floor pretty dramatically and stared up at the ceiling wondering if we really will ever overcome this obstacle. Developing new products for Picture This Clothing is not as simple as picking out some patterns from Joanne’s and deciding to make them. It’s also not buying a bunch of inexpensive blank products from overseas mass-manufacturers. It is a much, much more complex challenge to solve to do it the way we believe is the RIGHT way, which is developing patterns that meet our technical specifications, then printing, sublimating, cutting, and sewing in-house in our little Las Vegas shop. Quality matters. Doing it right matters. But damn, it sure can be frustrating sometimes.

We learned a few more things from takes two and three. And we’ve started again. Our new product launch is delayed indefinitely and it kills my soul a lot.

It’s easy to be caught up in what isn’t working when you’re in the thick of it. On the contrast, one of my favorite quotes:

“Success hides problems” -Ed Catmull

This contrast is what makes me grateful for the ups and downs both in life and in business. The “ups” keep us going and offer fuel to get us through the down times. The “downs” highlight what is broken and needs to be fixed so the next “up” matches the previous, if not taking us even higher.

It’s important to stop and look back at how far you’ve come once in a while. Then keep going.

Year one was overwhelming in its own way. We launched with a proof-of-concept and when it went viral the same day, it was like a thunderstorm of learning as fast as we could. We’re so grateful for such an electrifying start and we know we wouldn’t be where we are now without that, but WOW. It really did take us that first year just to get our bearings.

Last year (year two) when we decided to take on manufacturing it was daunting. None of us had manufacturing experience but every manufacturing shop we visited, learned about, or studied came with its own challenges and shortcomings. But none seemed to meet our needs in a way way we felt matched our core values and priorities.

When we stop and think about what our little team has accomplished it’s a pretty darn good track record in our not-quite three years as a company. Here’s a recap of some things we’re super proud to have done so far:

  • Launched our “idea-baby” our own way, it went viral the day it launched

  • Received “buzz” from the likes of TechCrunch, Buzzfeed, Huffington Post, FastCompany, BoredPanda, ScaryMommy, Disney’s Babble.com and a whole bunch more

  • Not one single dime of outside investment

  • $1.2mm in sales in our first 18 months

  • Built our own proprietary order mgmt software and developed our own tools for image processing

  • Brought manufacturing 100% in-house in Las Vegas, NV:

    • found a warehouse

    • bought all our equipment with no loans

    • we print, sublimate, hand cut, sew, and pack every single piece in our shop

  • Built/launched our own custom Affiliate program

  • Earned a strong foundation of very positive customer reviews

  • Cultivated a Facebook community from 0 to +86k and Instagram from 0 to +14k, full of names we’ve come to know and genuinely love talking to through behind-the-scenes live streams

Each bullet-point came with an enormous amount of work and I have to acknowledge that’s not too shabby for a team of 6 in less than 3 years. I’m proud of us.

So, I guess as we enter our third year it’d be crazy to think everything should run beautifully perfect with no big challenges. The thought of things running perfectly makes me laugh out loud. I don’t know what “running perfectly” really means, all I know is that I like what we’re working on. It’s hard and it’s worth it.

I’m grateful for this team I get to work with every day. I’m grateful for how much I’ve learned and continue to learn. I’m grateful that the thing we make is something that brings a lot of imagination, color, and joy to a small pocket of the world.

The struggle is real, and we’ll never know how much we really can accomplish without new challenges arising. We keep moving forward as hard as we can until we cannot. We’ll take a minute to look back every once in a while, and have enormous gratitude for the opportunity to do things our own way for however long that may be.

<3
Jaimee

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Ed Catmull quote via http://www.creativityincbook.com/catmull/

What Happened with Zia and Snapchat

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image source: https://www.funklevis.com/blog/when-influencers-turn-against-you-the-death-of-snapchat/

OK so… I vanished for a couple weeks. Let’s catch up!

In February, I posted a mighty parental post about letting Zia, my ten-year-old, install Snapchat after a very compelling request she made, along with about a week of consideration on the topic. LESS THAN 24 HOURS LATER I was sitting in her principal’s office. I got a pretty vague “we need you to meet with us about Zia” call. I honestly expected it to be about depression, or lack of focus in class - these are fairly frequent comments/notes surrounding Zia in school, stresses that we’re constantly working on. But that’s not what this was…

While I’ve always been pretty good about random, periodic reviews of the girls phones for inappropriate /concerning behavior and content, within the previous two weeks since my last kid-technology review, Zia decided to go “catfishing.” Here’s a good definition of that to save you a Google search if you’re unfamiliar:

“Catfishing’ refers to a scam where someone, the ‘catfish,’ creates a fictitious online identity and seeks out online relationships. These are frequently romantic relationships, and online dating websites and cell phone dating apps are fertile hunting ground for catfish. However, there are also catfish who seek out friendships and other forms of social contact.
Source:
https://consumer.findlaw.com

Let me clarify, we had not even installed Snapchat yet.  

I think I can sum it up in one line from Zia’s browser history:
https://www.omegle.com/ “Omegle, A place to meet strangers!”

Ya. A place. To meet strangers. On purpose. She learned about it from one of the YouTubers she watches pretty regularly (who’s videos are usually annoying and target an older teen audience, but typically fine content-wise. It just takes one little post to go un-reviewed, though.)
And more awesome - the school had to call the police because Zia had created a fake profile and had been having some conversations with two 18+ dudes. Fun times.

She found photos on the internet of things/people to share with them. One of the dudes shared a no-shirt pic with her, but we didn’t find anything “worse”, and while she *totally* shared photos of the inside of our home, she did not share photos of her own face/self, so the police didn’t need to confiscate her phone or take further action.

She told one of these 18+ dudes she was ten, and he still carried on “friendly” conversation with her. Puke-worthy.

Zia seemed to think her prowess as a crafty catfish was pretty funny and shared a screenshot of one of her conversations with a couple of her friends from school - one child was concerned for Z’s safety, shared with her mom, her mom turned the screenshot into the principal at school.  I have personally thanked this mom and Zia’s friends for doing the right thing. These kids and this parent were looking out for others, and I’m genuinely grateful.

With the exception of supervised use of her laptop to complete homework, Zia has been without any/all technology since the moment we walked out of the principal’s office. .Mostly while I figure out how on Earth we rebuild the trust and honestly between us, and NOT just create better sneakiness skills.

I cried on the drive home. It’s sad, embarrassing, disappointing and more than anything, it’s terrifying.
At home, Ken and I sorted through her entire phone and computer history. We were able to pinpoint the start date of all this stuff (less than 2 weeks prior), along with some phone numbers, chat logs, etc.

Z and I had a really, really, really long talk about EVERYTHING. Talks I didn’t think we’d be having for at least a few more years. I explained to her that while one of my biggest fears is that one of my kids goes missing, the scariest part of that fear isn’t finding her dead after having been horribly abused - it’s that she’ll be kept alive, being horribly abused, and never found.

With technology, comes access to everything. Parental controls? Parental controls in my experience have been very all-or-nothing, or impossibly high-maintenance. And kids are smart, they figure things out very quickly. I have worked in tech since 1998 and have more intimate knowledge of tech than a handful of parents out there. I’m grateful for this knowledge and for Ken’s way-better knowledge, because we were able to find a lot of information and talk openly with Z about it. And while it was scary bad, it could’ve been WAY worse, so in that way I have to be grateful that it happened now, and was caught relatively swiftly before it got WAY worse. 

I had to leave for London the following week to speak at a conference, so I asked her if she could just be ten years old for a week with her dad, and we’d work more on rebuilding trust when I returned.

It’s a long road. It’s a balance of sharing some of the darkest realities of horror that exist in our world while also trying to let her know I am here, and she is loved, and how not-shitty her life actually is in the scheme of things. I can see there is a blatant need for attention in her right now, so I’m trying to nourish that in the healthiest way I can.

Probably the most important thing for me right now is to make sure she understands and defines her moral compass and personal values, and the importance of honest and open communication between us.

I’m not a perfect parent. I don’t have perfect kids. We fumble out loud, cuz hey… we’re all just figuring it out as we go.

More catching up next week! Thanks for following along.

<3 Jaimee

Going Back to the Start

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The interesting thing with the idea of going back to the start is that you’re never the same as when you started. You’re different. You’ve changed. You’ve been through stuff, you’ve learned, you’ve experienced.

In my coaching days, one of my clients used the analogy of a high dive at a swimming pool to talk about pushing through things that were daunting. I loved that analogy and ran with it a bit for the sake of thinking through the process of starting new challenges and overcoming obstacles.

You climb the ladder to the highest high dive you see. It’s scary and exhausting, but you climb. Not everyone will climb with you, some will cheer you on from the sidelines, some may laugh at you or call you crazy, some will do their own thing and never even see you. But you climb and eventually you reach the top of the ladder and you slowly walk out to the end of the board. You can see so much from up there. You stand there, staring out, looking down. The fear of jumping grips you. Some get scared and climb back down the ladder. Not you. Eventually, you take a big breath in and you jump. You feel the air, anticipate the cool slap of breaking through the water. When you come up for air, it’s not just air that you’re breathing in, you’re inhaling a huge accomplishment. You did it.

You can repeat this process on the same high dive. The second time it’s still a little scary, but you’ve done it before so you know you’re capable. You can do it over and over. Sometimes the leap isn’t graceful. Sometimes you hit the water wrong and it hurts. You learn from the experience and go again.

For some, this will be high enough. You become a master, you teach others how to do what you’ve done. You push the boundaries of all the variations and ways possible to jump from this one amazing height.

Others crave more, and more will always exist. The need to search for higher dives will overcome you. You’ll search, you’ll find incrementally higher places to climb and leap from. High dive boards, cliff diving, sky diving…

Each time you’re standing at the base of another ladder staring up, it feels a bit insurmountable. As long as we start -one ladder rung at a time and don’t give up -you’ll eventually get to the top. Once you’re there the perspective shifts, the focus shifts.

The climb is a little different each time. Each time you figure out how to get to the top as you go, but you rely upon skills earned from all your previous experience. Each time you reach the top, you’re tired but thrilled by the view. Each time you get that knot in your stomach as you look to the water and you decide if you’re going to jump or not. The closer you get to the edge the more you feel your heart beating inside your throat.

You jump. 

You do it all over again.

-Jaimee

Letting My Kids Use Snapchat

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UPDATE: Monday, March 4, 2019 (less than 48 hours later) - Privilege REVOKED for Zia.
It may take me a while to post a more detailed follow up on this, but for now, and separate from Snapchat - she’s lost her phone and unsupervised internet access for the foreseeable future.

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My ten-year-old daughter Zia sent me a chuckle-worthy but serious text last week, which I shared via Twitter and Facebook. Here’s the screenshot of her text:

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This post stirred up quite a lot of thoughts, perspectives, and generally great commentary from friends and family, and also the question, “Are you going to let her get Snapchat?”

I took a day (or so) to think about it, and I landed on a “Yes, but…”, here’s how I got there.

MY KIDS AND TECHNOLOGY

I’m a woman in tech. I’m the mother of two young daughters and technology has been my livelihood since 1998. I co-run a clothing company now, but even Picture This Clothing is still very rooted in software and technology (much of it we’ve built in-house) to make it run the way we want it to run. I mostly love technology.

Zia was about 10 months old (and Sophia, 4-years-old) when I plopped our first iPad in front of them to see what they’d do with it. I was designing web interfaces at the time, and had just received my first mobile app project. It was 2010 and I was working on the first iPad app for Zappos. Turns out, my kids were two of the most valuable interface testers of my career. 

Watching my then-10-month-old use this new technology was incredible. She was fascinated, engaged, and more awesomely, she seemed automatically to know how to use it. This doesn’t mean I just propped her up in a bouncy seat with an iPad all day and night, or even for hours. It just means I was working with this technology, I was curious and I enjoy sharing my curiosity with my kids and seeing what that looks like. Both my kids enjoyed poking at the iPad. We spent time together trying-out different apps from the educational to the silly.

I learned with, and from them.

THEY HAVE iPHONES

I got my daughters each an iPhone 5c in 2015 after a very scary experience of waiting for an after-school bus that was more than an hour late, none of us parents at the bus stop were able to reach the school or school’s transportation department, or a suitable alternative with answers, and none of our kids had any way of contacting them. And, they’d soon be going to separate schools so they wouldn’t be riding a bus together anymore.

“Ya, but… iPhones?”

I’ve been a Mac-user since 1998. I was one of those people who stood in line for hours for the first iPhone on release day in 2007. My work from 2010-2013 was solely focused on designing interfaces for Apple products. I know Apple products better than I know other products, this is what made sense for me. 

I knew I would have device tracking with no learning curve —if my kids have their phones with them, I know where they’re at. Can they block that feature? Sure. And I can take their phones away. Their phones are a privilege that they care about and don’t want to lose, which can be a great negotiating tool. But more than anything, it gives me some small sense of comfort when they’re out in the world. I also hope I’ve taught them enough humility to not be A-holes about things like what kinds of phones people have or don’t have. I’m not ‘anti’ any particular smartphone/contact device, I’m simply sticking to my comfort-zone by going with iPhones.

CHILD PREDATORS

Zia, quite adorably, addresses in her plea that she “most likely won’t fall for child predators”. Man, I hope not, kiddo.

It does suck that our kids have to worry about stuff like this. But here’s the thing… Child predators have always been there. Child predators certainly existed throughout my childhood and well before, and they exist now. I have more than one childhood friend who some of us never knew anything was going on, who later in life came forward about someone who’d hurt them that NO ONE ever suspected. People we all knew. People their parents knew, and trusted. 

Smartphones and apps can absolutely give the worst-kind-of-sick people easy, direct access to our kids. While I fully respect each parent’s personal choices for their own families, my personal approach to this is not to prevent my kids from using these tools in order to protect them, but rather expose them to the technology, understand what they’re interested in and what they’re using, monitor the shit out of it, and try my best to teach them how to identify and handle unsavory interactions, from the mean and bully sort, to the straight-up predator. And yes - we’ve absolutely had to block some “followers” and delete some apps.

I might miss something. I won’t be able to protect them from everyone or everything, and I may one day regret some sort of fall-out from my approach. We’ve all read the stories, maybe we even know someone who went through something awful. I’m not saying I don’t think something bad can happen. I sure hope it doesn’t. But this fear I have of child predators accessing my kids is not isolated to technology as a gateway. So, I choose to move forward at our own pace, folding-in what feels right to my guts at the time.

GAMES & APPS

I am not the parent that says, “I didn’t have/do this when I was a kid and I turned out fine.” Technology is a part of the world that today’s kids are growing up with. I believe in the value of tactile and non-digital creativity, learning, and real-world-engagement —and all the fine things I grew up with, but I *love* arcade and video games. I *love* technology. I love knowing how it works, what makes it work, why it works, and exploring what’s possible. Games are FUN. And so far, my kids brains don’t seem to be in any stage of mental rot.

I find that the more I understand and embrace technology, the more I can connect with my kids through it. I hear the complaints about faces in screens and lack of human connection because of technology. There’s certainly some truth to that, but I think it’s great to identify the problems so that we can work through solutions in a way that helps our family become closer, not more separate.

I fumble through this, but I really do make a big effort to be engaged in what tech they’re using. When my kids asked me if they could get YouTube channels a few years ago, I set up my own YouTube channel. I created content and posted content for 30 consecutive days. I woke up early in the morning in order to make time to understand all I could about how it worked and how to use it as quickly as possible so that I could then let them run with it and not be completely blind to it. I needed to understand it before I felt comfortable with them using it.

I set rules for them. I want to see what they post before they post, which ends up happening naturally when I’m able to show them how stuff works because I made time to learn about it. If I see them trying to post something I feel is inappropriate in any way, we can talk through it on the spot. Revise. Try again.

If I don’t make time to learn something they ask about ahead of time, I’ll ask them to teach me and show me how they use it and what they’re making. I’ve learned about some pretty cool stuff from my kids. (Like the game Cuphead - which is AMAZING!) My kids still seem interested in talking to me and sharing stuff with me, I’ll hang on to that with all I’ve got for as long as I can. Asking them to share their apps and games with me, and learning why they like them is a really nice bonding point in our home. I was super close with my mom through my entire youth until she passed away when I was 27. I don’t do everything the way she did, but I did inherit a lot of her ways, and I elaborate on those in ways that feel right for me with my kids.

SNAPCHAT

“Yes, but…”

Even with an approach I consider pretty liberal in terms of my kids and their engagement with technology, I have boundaries. Snapchat has been a firm “no” until this latest request from Zia. I should note, she’s only ever asked once before, it hasn’t been a wear-down attempt or anything like that. The last time she asked was probably a year or two ago.  I actually appreciate that she took the time to write out a pretty well-thought-out (albeit very exclamation point-heavy) proposal. For her age, it’s pretty darn good.

We talked about toning down the “!” use and typos, and talked about the app, privacy settings, who it’s OK to communicate with.

I’ve spent time going through Children’s Advocacy Center’s Snapchat info (click here to check that info out.)

I’ve gone through similar guidelines and rules with my kids, for years, about what content they share or even capture with their phones from the moment they got their phones.

Later today, Zia and I will install the Snapchat app together. I understand that it’s risky. I don’t know how it will go. But we’re going to give it a try, together. We cross bridge after bridge as we get to it. I can’t monitor every aspect of everything they do, nor should I. They need to learn independence and how to interact in this world, including occasional ways that scare the crap out of me. 

I know there are strong arguments to be made both for and against the use of apps like Snapchat. Maybe there are points I never considered despite weighing out a lot of points quite heavily over the days since Zia’s request.

The bottom line for me is that I choose not to shelter my girls from technology, but rather encourage some freedom with it, even at early ages, because it IS the world they are growing up in whether I’m ready or not. Today, I’m choosing to embrace Snapchat as a part of a learning experience.

<3
Jaimee

Doing Things That Scare Me

Several years ago during a really intense “burnout” in life and work, I decided to re-design my life. I started with a list of “What’s Important”, I quit my job (an independent mom at the time, with a bit of savings but no other sources of income), and having no real idea of what would be next, I let that list be my guide…

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Checking Myself

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It’s January 20, 2019 and I’m not sure if I’m alone on this or not but… 
Are you kidding me? Where has this month gone?

Being as the time is going to fly like this, it seems prudent to revisit my “3 Words” <—that’s a link in case you want to check out my original 3 Words for 2019 post.

I realize that sometimes we set intentions or goals, maybe even resolutions, but come February or March we’ve moved on, because life. I think doing an end-of-month review of my 3 Words might be a really solid way to keep them in the forefront of my mind. And bonus, by writing about my 3 words with some frequency I create little footprints that I can look back upon and acknowledge that some progress was made instead of trying to make myself feel badly for not doing enough.

I know my progress has not been huge and my first instinct is to feel disappointed in myself. As with all things, I can choose how I’m going to feel about where I’m at, and instead of feeling badly for not doing more I’m going to feel good about making any progress at all.

Let’s take a look:

Organize.

I think Ken has made more visible progress on this than I have, and I don’t even think he picked words of intention for the year. BUT I did make some small strides forward.


• The File Cabinet

I’m a pro at starting small. :)
I cleaned out and organized 3 folders in my file cabinet. Sure, I would rather wait until I bring the label maker home from the office to finish (excuses), but I started and those three folders make me smile. I can’t wait for the other 200 or so to be just as caught-up. If I can do only 3 folders a month, this “organize” thing could take a while, but then… maybe if I’m actually doing 3 folders a month, this becomes a tiny fixture of routine in my life and the “overwhelm” part never happens again. Let’s see how this unfolds this year.

• Finances

I got my finances all organized. I’ve never been terribly unorganized financially, but I like getting my taxes done asap, so those are ready for my accountant. I love making financial spreadsheets, it’s sort of a weird fascination I’ve had since I learned how to use Excel way back in the day, so I’ve also plotted out my financial status and objectives for the year.

• My Medicine Cabinet

I have a pretty large medicine cabinet/mirror dealy in my bathroom over my sink. It wasn’t a mess, but it had stuff like gummy nail polish and way-outdated “deluxe samples” of face creams and whatnot. I emptied the whole cabinet, cleaned each shelf and put back only what I use. It’s a small thing but it makes me breathe easier. When I open this cabinet now, I actually smile.

• The Office

We moved out of our small office and into our bigger office. I had no idea how much stuff we had until I saw it all piled in the middle of the floor of our once super spotless new space. We picked up a few more Ikea shelves and started the epic organization project, but we’ve a long way to go on this one. Baby steps!

• Writing

I’m writing! The goal is every Sunday of 2019. If more happens, awesome. So far, there’s not been more and I’m OK with that for now. It feels really good to be doing any at all! The more I do it, the more organized I start to feel.

I would love to say I did a whole bunch of other stuff but this was as far as focused organizational tasks have gone thus far. 

As I write, I’m remembering how helpful it is to breaking items out like this in writing. This was normal for me once upon a time, feels good to strike back up again!

Expand.

I closed out a few things and said “no” to a few other things in the first couple of weeks this month. I also said “yes” to a few things. I’m slowly reaching out to find the edges of this space I’ve carved out. This intention I’ve set for myself to expand is a bit tricky because I feel like I’m learning and trying to figure out exactly what I mean by it as I go. February could be shaping up as a month of making lists. Probably should’ve started that in January. We still have some days left in January… 

Anyway, this one will be interesting to experience and I will continue documenting how it all plays out. Maybe by the end of the year we’ll have something nifty to get excited about and a whole lot of learning under our belt! Maybe we’ll just have a bunch of lists.

Presence.

I’ve had a couple great written exchanges with people I’ve not talked to in years. I’ve worked on little things like leaving my phone in the other room, or just putting it down more often. Zia and I have an ongoing battle of who’s better at Clue.
There are a few people on my list to reach out to sooner than later. 

I feel like I have a lot of growth to do in this area, yet at the same time, I feel like I have some very awesome, meaningful, and mindful relationships. I don’t want to move too quickly on expanding my circle until I know that every person that I view as being in my circle knows they are, and feels they are. I have a lot of work to do on that.

Reaching the end of my recap and looking back on it, it feels more significant to me than it felt when I started this post. Even though my progress was relatively small, it was small in several places and THAT is progress.

Did you set intentions or goals for 2019? How are things going for you?

Little Kids Wearing Makeup

When we launched Picture This Clothing in August of 2016, things blew up virally on the internet before we had a chance to even process what was happening. The internet being what it is, I got to hear lots of rage about what a really horrible, horrible person I was, and message I was sending, to feature little girls wearing makeup on our website. For the record, I didn’t put makeup on the kids on our website.

Here’s the story.

We launched Picture This Clothing as a proof-of-concept back in August of 2016. For proofs-of-concept you do as many things as swiftly and on the cheap as possible just to get the idea out into the world. We still did it with care for quality and detail, but one of the things we did as swiftly and inexpensively as we could was take our own website/product photos. We didn’t hire models or a photographer. I had an iPhone 6 and two seven-year-olds eager to help out.

When we first launched, we only offered dresses. T-shirts are far more complex garments to make (all of our garments are cut & sew, we don’t use pre-assembled clothing), so we figured we’d test the dresses first and see how it went, if things went well we’d add t-shirts, and so-on. Additionally, this concept was born out of a dress I’d made for my youngest daughter Zia from a drawing she’d done, so dresses just seemed to make sense as a starting point.

Zia’s best friend Gigi had spent the night, her parents had given permission for her to participate with Zia in a photoshoot for our little idea. The girls knew it was “picture day”, so after breakfast I asked them to go get picture-ready. In my mind, this meant brushing their hair and teeth. Gigi and Zia interpreted it differently. They vanished for a good hour, I was sidetracked getting the space ready for photo-taking but eventually they emerged “ready” for their big photoshoot…

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Please don’t focus on the creepy butter-knives, we don’t make habit of playing with kitchen cutlery in our home. They asked if they could use them specifically to take “scary photos”, I said yes since they’d done all this fine work on their faces and costumes. Gigi and Zia have been best friends since they met at day-care when they were two-and-a-half years old. This, to me, (sans butter-knives) is a totally normal morning with these two. They play. They dress up. They imagine. They giggle. They dream.

But ya, I had some face scrubbing to do to get them to the point where we could take the photos that were used on the website. I really thought I’d done a pretty good job considering where we started. But there’s always stuff no one sees.

Zia and Gigi were seven in these photos. They use makeup for play, not for self-esteem. I think it’s great.

I welcome all thoughts on kids and makeup!


Jaimee Newberry

Zia on the Picture This Clothing home page on launch day, August 17, 2016

Zia on the Picture This Clothing home page on launch day, August 17, 2016

Gigi on the Picture This Clothing “Dress” landing page on launch day, August 17, 2016

Gigi on the Picture This Clothing “Dress” landing page on launch day, August 17, 2016


My 3 Words for 2019

A few years back my friend Daniel Steinberg introduced me to Chris Brogan’s “3 Words Process” while we were experimenting with our own TinyChallenges podcast.

I sat down to write yesterday because writing (again) is one of the things I want to do for myself in the coming year. I decided that one day out of every week in 2019 (Sundays) I would use my currently-dedicated gym time to write, that way there would be no excuse about not having time - the time was carved out two-and-a-half years ago and healthily maintained as gym time. I didn't foresee a swap-out of one thing for another being the challenge it was. It totally was, though. I did NOT want to get out of bed yesterday.

Once I peeled myself out of bed I decided to write about 2018. I bored myself with my own words and thoughts after about 20 minutes and quickly distracted myself by checking-in on work. 3 hours later I was still working on work things that could've waited. I guess I'm a bit out of practice.

While I'm discouraged that writing didn't feel wonderful and freeing and like the only thing ever that I want to do for the rest of my life, as it used to... this, like many things, will take me some time to rebuild a recurring practice around and I choose to be OK with that. 

I thought about my three words for a long time. At first, I had eight words and it was tough for me to focus on them long enough to prioritize them. I decided that today I will make time. So here's where I've landed (in no particular order). 
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Organize.
Since the launch and viral chaos of Picture This Clothing in August of 2016, almost everything else took a back seat. At first, the company completely took over our home. Eventually, we subleased a small space near our manufacturer, then in 2018, we took on a lease of our own and it's an amazing space! 

My home, however, has never fully recovered. My mind has never fully recovered. This year I will get a handle on the many bits that feel like a straight-up 10,000 lb glitter explosion. 

Expand.
In prior years it was a goal to make more space in my life. I believe I have done that to quite a solid degree since I started that journey in 2013. Creating space, in my own definition, was about hugging-in and focusing only on what is important. Clearing out the noise. Saying "no" more so that there is space to breathe, feel, and exist with pointed intention. Now it's time to expand mindfully within the space I have carved out. I made the mistake last year of expanding too quickly beyond the space. While that had some benefits, it also had some enormous negative consequences. Hopefully, this has been a well-learned lesson that bears no repeating. 

Presence.
Relationships require cultivating, care, attention, and presence. I want to improve my presence in the relationships I most value. Life is too short not to put more focus here.
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While I've never been much of a "resolutions" kind-a-girl, I'm a huge advocate for goals and writing things down - for me writing is the clarity of vision that defines doing versus not doing. :) 

Happy 2019, friends!

Jaimee

A very quick recap of 2018:

  • With the exception of slowing down over Christmas break, I continued my streak of going to the gym at least 4 times per week. I’ll hit the 3-year mark of this routine in May of 2019.

  • Got an incredible office space and established our own manufacturing shop (we print, cut, sew, thread-clip, label, pack, and ship every single piece in-house) for Picture This Clothing free of any bank-loans or outside investment.

  • Invited to Shark Tank. Went and failed miserably. It will never air but was a great experience.

  • Experimented a ton (and had lots of fun) with videos for Picture This Clothing.

  • As far as I know, my kids and Ken don’t hate me and I think they’re all amazing.

  • Started speaking at conferences again.